Excerpts of Mr. Abiola Ogunrinde's message at the Sunrise Service on Sunday, November 19, 2017
Bible Text: 1 Samuel 8:1-5
Parenting can be defined as child-rearing - the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, intellectual, and spiritual development of a child from infancy to adulthood. It involves leading, providing, protecting and training.
There are different styles of parenting. Such as:
1. Authoritative Parenting.
2. Authoritarian Parenting.
3. Permissive Parenting
Looking at the parenting style of the One who created the family, parenting should start from the home. God expects you to teach your children in His ways (Genesis 18:19). The King's business is to save, and God has promised to save our children (Isaiah 49:25). He has also promised to save our household (Acts 16:31). You have responsibility for not just your children but you have responsibility for your entire household.
Hannah played an important role in the up-bringing of her son, Samuel. Rebecca also played an important role in bring the prophecies of Jacob and Esau to pass. This tells us that raising children or parenting in the King's business is a joint venture. We see this truth in (Luke 2:29). How your children turn out is what God will judge you with (1 Samuel 3:13).
What Should You Do?
1. Teach your children (Deuteronomy 6:6-7). Teach them the way of the LORD and you should practice what you teach them.
2. Train up your children in the way of the LORD (Proverbs 22:6). Training involves repetition, reinforcement, etc. Children watch you; hence, don't tell them one thing and do another thing. Training also involves correction and sometimes, punishment (Proverbs 29:15-17). However, you need to be careful how you mete out punishment. You have to apply wisdom (Ephesians 6:4), you have to correct your children in love.
3. Bless your children (Mark 10:13-16). Jesus created time to spend with children. This teaches that you need to have time for your children. Jesus offered loving affirmation and used a tempered tongue with the children.
In conclusion, you need grace to be able to succeed in parenting (Malachi 4:5-6).